Regrets can shape your life in negative ways. Most of the time the item that caused the regret is something that cannot be changed.
However, you can transform how you feel about them.
- Acknowledge to yourself your specific or general regret
- Seek therapy or coaching if needed, to help you transform your feelings of regret
- Be gentle and kind with yourself
Regrets come in all shapes and sizes. Courageously Living works hard to provide with you reputable resources, but always do your own research on any resource or advice given. Courageously Living doesn’t receive any compensation or commission for these resources.
Regrets with People
Fights, words spoken in haste, break down of relationships, things not said and much more can contribute to feelings of regrets related to people in your life.
Book: The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
Podcast: Mindfulness & Grief with Heather Stang : Episode: Guilt, Regret & Traumatic Loss: How to Stop Blaming Yourself with Anne-Marie Lockmyer
YouTube: Ted Talks: Conscious Caregiving with Nadine Roberts Cornish (This was recorded in 2017 still 100% true, also isn’t totally about regret but it does address it.)
Regrets about Situations/ Actions/ Missed Opportunities
Regretting how a situation played out or an action you took can cause regret, but sometimes it’s the inaction that causes the most regret.
Blog: How to Cope with Regret on Very Well Mind
Podcast: Dare to Lead with Brené Brown: Episode: Power of Regret interview with Dan Pink
YouTube: Nae’s Laugh: Eposide When You Feel It’s Too Late: Overcoming “Missed” Opportunities in Life + Regrets
Former Beliefs / Decisions
Your environment (family, friends, work, groups, etc) can play a large roll in your beliefs and decisions. Finding the courage to change your environment, including but not limited to who you respect, who or where you get your information from, and who you associate with can be life altering.
Which can cause deep feelings of regret, guilt and shame from your past choices or beliefs.
Be gentle with yourself!
Depending on the intensity of the environment you came from this can be really complex internal layers and may take some time to unravel. That’s okay, listen to yourself and take small steps forward.
Blog: Stayers Guilt: Why Didn’t I end the relationship, leave the job or make that move sooner? on The Thirtysomething Coach
Blog: How to Recover Your Life After Growing Up In Cult? by Leona Left Fundamentalism
Podcasts: Escaping Cults This is a well thought out list of serval different podcasts from PlayerFM
Transforming your regrets can be challenging but by transforming them you become more powerful in your life than you know.
Believe It.
Feel It.
Know It.
Give yourself a hug.
You’ve Got This!
