Have you even done a check-in with yourself and thought, “I just want to make progress but I feel like I'm going in circles”?
This post breaks down how you really are progressing forward even when you don't feel like you are. It specifically is written as a follow up an earlier blog post called: What really is preventing you from getting what you want?
If you haven’t read that one I do suggest reading that first. But the general concept below can be applied to other situations where you are trying to establish a baseline, and then have periodic check-ins.
I know when I first created the BKF Numbers technique (which is explained in the above mentioned blog) I had several moments of this isn't working.
I thought that because I started to get unexpected results.
So let’s take a deeper look into possible outcomes of answers.
At your check-in your numbers: Increase Toward 10
Excellent, this one is the easiest to see progress is being made. Your conscious and unconscious mind are working together to move things forward.
At your check-in your numbers: Stay the Same
This can be frustrating because you had expected to see your numbers increase.
Depending on what you are trying to change this might be that you just attempted to check-in too quickly to see your progress. Numbers that stay the same doesn’t mean progress isn’t happening it’s just that your conscious and unconscious mind require more time to process the change.
Ask again in 2 or 3 days.
At your check-in your numbers: Go Down
At your check-in your numbers: Are All Over the Place
Sometime big changes take more time, and sometimes they don’t. Give yourself space and time for either.
You can think of all of this as learning a new skill. You might get the basics down the first day or two, but then a couple weeks later you seem to have regressed. And you are messing up the basic steps again.
That happens because you are constantly adding another layer to what you know and unconscious tweaking the basics as you go.
For example
Let’s say you are learning how to bake. At first you measure precisely the right amount.
As time goes by you get a little less careful about the measurements and the baking item still turns out okay.
Then all of sudden your bakery items aren’t turning out and you realize you stopped measuring completely because you just eye balled the measurement.
You have to go back the basics of measuring again. It won’t take you as long this time to get your bakery items to turn out again, because the base knowledge is already there you just inadvertently tweaked your knowledge a bit too far.
That is similarly what is happening with your beliefs, feelings and knowledge when you try to create something new into your life.
At first think carefully about what you want to create. Some time passes and doubts start to creep in but, you still see the end goal. So no big deal.
Finally when you are close to what you want obstacles and detours come up that make you question everything or worse give up completely.
Then it becomes time to go back to getting clarity on what you want so you can move forward again.
Change can be hard, even when you want it or desire it. Give yourself grace for the process of getting there.
BFK Numbers: A quick recap of the technique
BFK is a simple 4 part technique to help you quickly see if there is something preventing you from moving forward.
Creating a baseline to understand what you Believe, Feel and Know for any specific area in your life.
Releasing what is no longer serving you.
Then going about your day.
And finally checking-in to see your progress.
To learn more about the basic technique check out the blog called BFK Numbers Technique.
