BFK Numbers Technique

BFK is a simple 4 part technique to help you quickly see if there is something preventing you from moving forward.

You want to understand what you Believe, Feel and Know for any specific area in your life.

Part One: Baseline

Start with answering this basic question three times, once you get comfortable with this, feel free to create your own questions.

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I BELIEVE I am ready for (insert your want or desire here)?

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I FEEL I am ready for (insert your want or desire here)?

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I KNOW I am ready for (insert your want or desire here)?

Examples of wants or desires

Work: New responsibilities at work, New co-workers, New job, Promotion

Relationships: Meeting new people, New friendships, New relationship, Emotionally stable relationship, Marriage

Daily Life: More flexibility during my day, Change in routine, Walking 2 times a week, Increase my vegetables intake

Abundance: More Money flowing to me, Having fun money

Tip: Start with smaller wants and desires first, to build your mental muscle for this technique.

Part Two: Release

Our logical brain is usually on board with our wants and desires. How many times a day do you say, you want something and you logically believe you do. But that “want” isn’t coming into your life.

Most of the time when we want something in our lives, we also have unconscious fears of actually getting the thing we want.

So this part is about releasing the fears that we are ready to let go of.

Ask yourself this question:

On a scale of 0-10 how much am I ready to RELEASE any remaining fears?

If you are lucky enough to get a 10, great! You are ready to completely release those remaining fears.

Any number other than 10 is also great! It just means you are going to release your fears in parts instead of all at once.

This is one of the best parts of this technique you just have acknowledge you have some fears, you don’t have to try to figure out what they are.

Third Part: Go About Your Day

Literally that’s it. Whatever you were planning for the day, do!

Try to refrain from digging up all the remaining fears, because that can actually be counter-productive and you may inadvertently increase your fears.

Part Four: Check-In

If you wrote your answers down in First Part or you happen to remember them in a day or so, re-ask yourself the questions and see how your numbers have changed. And then repeat the other parts as necessary.

Repeat until you do forget to check in or get all 10's in the first part.

Below the BFK technique is written in a slightly different format to give you another way to look at it.

Start by asking yourself one question 3 times with 3 different variables. Once you get comfortable with the technique your question may be different each time you ask. But for now start by using the question shown below. The variables will always stay the same.

You want to understand what you Believe, Feel and Know for any specific area in your life.

For example: If you want a relationship, your question to yourself might be:

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I BELIEVE I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship?

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I FEEL I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship?

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I KNOW I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship?

By assigning numbers from 0 to 10 to your Beliefs, Feeling, and Knowing it can help eliminate ambiguity and acknowledge you have some unconscious fears and/or trepidation.

The best part is you don’t have to always have know what the exact fear or trepidation is for you to begin to shift your mindset.

Let’s say these are your answers for above example:

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I BELIEVE I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship? 4

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I FEEL I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship? 3

On a scale of 0-10 how much do I KNOW I am ready for an emotionally stable relationship? 7

You can quickly look at those numbers and realize you may have some fears about getting into another relationship.

Now by acknowledging you still have some fears ask yourself how much are you ready to release those fears.

This is where your logically brain typically says- sure I’m 100% ready to release these fears.

But at an unconscious level you may not be quite ready to release all of your fears. AND that is OKAY!

That is why asking the next question is so important.

On a scale of 0-10 how much am I ready to RELEASE any remaining fears?

If you are lucky enough to get a 10, great! You are ready to completely release those remaining fears.

Any number other than 10 is also great! It just means you are going to release your fears in parts instead of all at once.

After you asked that question and got your answer the absolute best thing you can do is go about your day. Don’t try to figure what fear you have or how to release it.

Often just by acknowledging you are ready to release a fear will help release it.

If you happen to think about your main desire or you wrote down your answers you can check-in with yourself over the next few days to see how things shifted.

But if you forget about it- great! That particular fear or set of fears are most likely is gone.

You can repeat this technique anytime you feel stuck about anything going on in your life.

If you want to read an example of how I used this in my life check out the blog: What Really is Preventing You From Getting what you want

If your numbers aren't what you were expecting check out the blog called: Up, Down and All Around